Thursday, January 21, 2010

Who are we to say.....

That same sex couples can not get married??
This is something that has driven me INSANE for years and continues to ruffle my feathers pretty much daily.  Clearly this is an issue that everyone will have a different opinion on, but my opinion as a wedding professional and a human being is, if someone is in love we should not put barriers on their legal rights! Not only does this pose issues with the couple not being able to legally say they are married but it comes down to WAY more then that.
The United States has diversity, we should honor that and be grateful, not suppress it. Who wants to live in a country where everyone is the exact same and can not be who they are comfortable being?
This is a very generic post, because I do not want to go off on a massive tangent. So I am keeping it simple but everyone should know the facts which are listed below.
As of June 3, 2009, six states have full marriage equality: Massachusetts, Connecticut, Iowa, Vermont (as of Sept 1), Maine (as of Sept 14), and now New Hampshire. 

15 Reasons Why Marriage Matters
From Marriage Equality USA

Marriage offers 1,138 Federal benefits and responsibilities , not including hundreds more offered by every state.

In times of crisis, spouses have hospital visitation rights and can make medical decisions in event of illness or disability of their spouse.

Employers offer spouses sick leave, bereavement leave, access to health insurance and pension.

The law provides certain automatic rights to a person's spouse regardless of whether or not a will exists.

Married couples in elderly care facilities are generally not separated unless one spouse's health dictates hospitalization or special care.

Married couples are permitted to give an unlimited amount of gifts to each other without being taxed.

The law presumes that a married couple with both names on the title to their home owns the property as "tenants by the entirety."

A married couple, by statute, has creditor protection of their marital home.

Many married people are entitled to financial benefits relating to their spouses, such as disability, pension and social security benefits.

With marriage, a couple has the right to be treated as an economic unit and to file joint tax returns (and pay the marriage penalty), and obtain joint health, home and auto insurance policies.

When a spouse dies, there is no need to prove ownership of every item in the household for taxable purposes.

A child who grows up with married parents benefits from the fact that his or her parents' relationship is recognized by law and receives legal protections.

Spouses are generally entitled to joint child custody and visitation upon divorce (and bear an obligation to pay child support).

The mark of a strong family and healthy children is having parents who are nurturing, caring, and loving. Parents should be judged on their ability to parent, not by their age, race, religion, gender, disability, sexual orientation or gender identity.

For adults, a stable, happy marriage is the best protector against illness and premature death. Decades of research have clearly established these links. (Burman & Margolin, 1992; Dawson, 1991; Verbrugge, 1979).

So clearly this is not just a matter of being able to express love to one another by having a celebration. It is so much more deep rooted. For more information click the banner below.

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